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Ibecause he didn't change his behavior just because pinksoil expressed her feelings.

Trust is so vital to have real healing in a therapeutic relationship. If I told T something difficult, and then he suddenly said 'oop...you talked about sex, no more touch' -- I would feel punished. I would feel like my trust in T had been shaken.

Good therapy, IMHO, embraces the whole person -- nasty bits and all. And to have the T make sudden changes in a carefully created safe environment, would do more harm than good.


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That's what impressed me about my T, too. When I admitted those feelings to him (which I'm sure he already knew, like, 2817 years ago... I was so afraid that I was going to scare him, or push him away... but he didn't take anything away from me. One of the whole points of working with erotic transference in therapy is to experience the whole "unconditional positive regard" thing... that no matter what you tell your T, no matter what feelings you bring up... your T is not going to go away, or take anything away from you. That is something a lot of haven't had in our upbringings... a person who is always there, no matter what. He asked me yesterday, if I felt anything has changed since last week, which was the deepest I ever went into discussing my feelings towards him. He was concerned that I may have perceived some changes in him. I appreciated that he was concerned for that.