Just a question, didn't the hand holding session happen after your session were you confided in him that you had those feelings, the same thing with the special email?
I am not sure why my posts are being taken so black and white. I believe in touch in therapy. I don't believe things should change that much when a client mentions an attraction. But if part of their prior therapy included things like hugging or hand holding, then they shouldn't be ripped away from the client, but the T needs to be extra careful. Because those physical affections can be taken the wrong way. To me, and everyone is different, hand holding can be more intimate than a friendly short hug.

After all isn't that kinda a first step as a child in the discovering the opposite sex. Holding hands were a big deal at one time in our lives. I think this is why it is unfortunate that T's are afraid to do any touch, including teachers, mentors, because these actions can be taken wrongly. I remember in school when it was okay to hug a teacher, but now they are afraid of doing so.