You ask a good question...if you don't care, why should she?

It's hard for parents to mind the boundaries of their adult children. It just is. I'm in that position now with my youngest having been so needy for so long.

The bottom line, sweetie, is that she has to own her own stuff and you yours. Give her time to heal and learn...learn how to own her own stuff.

You didn't do anything wrong, and if she's hurting, it's due to "her own stuff". Love her through it, but maintain that boundary, hon.

Love,

KD