Zen, someone I checked on to see if she was OK because I hadn't heard from her -- told me she hadn't even noticed I was gone.

You wonder why I have a complex about this?

But see, that's what *I* do -- when I haven't heard from someone in a while, I write or call and find out what's going on with them. In return, I get "I didn't even notice you were gone." Being invisible is painful.

Candy