Aw, SM - it's obvious you speak the language. The needle said "Here I am!"

I'd like to clarify something because it usually makes me very angry when I see people laughing at disabled people. I grew up with a very close friend with cerebral palsy, and it's a pet peeve of mine.

It may appear I was trying to be funny at Suzie's expense - I wasn't. The "spiritually deficient" comment reminded me of Suzie because it's not possible for her to change her ways. I don't believe "ignorant" or "ugly" people are automatically spiritually deficient. I told the story because I considered Suzie to be filled with spirit, and I suspect I know where it came from.

The way I see it, I had three choices to respond to that incident, and we chose laughter. I refrained from laughing out loud when I was there because it would have encouraged her and made it harder for the social worker. I'm sure Suzie would have loved to have me join in her laughter.

I thought it was funny because Suzie had such pride and joy on her face. I don't think it was only because of her use of that dirty word. I think it had more to do with her feeling a little empowered in her situation and relief that she could get whatever "abuse" occurred off her chest. So, yeah, HAHA - Suzie, you go girl!

Another choice would be to ignore her. That would have been humanly impossible, unless I had a set of headphones. I'd never wear headphones out in public because I've always enjoyed being with people - especially new people I don't know. I sometimes get the opportunity to hear stories I've never heard before, if they are willing to chat.

The last choice would be to judge her as disgusting based on her language and table manners. I REFUSE to judge someone based on that criteria, even if they are able-bodied. Words are just words. I suspect God is strong enough to handle a dirty word now and then. I doubt he'd be disgusted by someone awkwardly trying to nourish themselves.

Okay, I feel better now - thanks.