Hubby insist on having an open discusion with them, without losing his paitence or temper no matter what they say to us, I agree and its helped with my eldest son, he tells us most that are bothering him no matter how small or big or even embarrasing (I find the last one hard but act as though I dont lol)....

Our second son is very secretive no matter how hard we try to teach him he dosnt have to be, so I think it also depends on the child.