I think you're spot on in doing this. I waited entirely too long to be honest about what I did know with T. Too much wasted time that I regret very much. I don't wish that regret for you or anyone. I hope you're able to give him the letter. I felt so much good when I finally did and found that I was truly accepted, not thought of as crazy and, in fact, that T already knew most of what I told him without the detail. you'll both be the better for it, I suspect, which can only help your therapy.

Good luck, hon, and please let us know!

KD