Those comments looked judgemental and unprofessional to me. I wouldn't write that way anywhere about anybody. Where is the value in it? If you are going to talk to the T who wrote that, I would ask for an explanation, because that doesn't sound very appropriate to me. Is there any chance that your memory of it is distorted somehow? I'm not saying it is, but I just can't conceive of writing notes that way.

I'm curious about the notes my T writes about me too, and I imagine they are not flattering. There have been times that I knew she felt I was noncompliant and choosing to continue being self-desructive, because she told me so. And I'm sure that's in the notes. It wouldn't feel good to read. But, then, I wrote an assessment of myself (never showed it to T - afraid of the confrontation when she disagrees with my self-diagnoses, and I also said some unflattering things about her and past therapy). My own assessment that I wrote is not at all flattering. I would say it's honest. If someone else had written it about me, I might be mad at them.

Assessments and notes have to be honest, even when it isn't flattering. I write behavior plans, and have to have the parents and the client sign them. I've had parents complain that what I wrote wasn't very flattering. I guess it's not. It's about a person's problem behaviors, and has to show it for what it is. Likewise, therapy notes are written about your flaws and shortcomings - the things that you go to therapy because you can't live with it the way it is. I try to balance that stuff out by including the strengths, but when it comes down to it, strengths are important and are what will help the client get better, but the problems are why the client is in therapy and why the notes are being written.

Mountaindew, it does sound like your current T is a keeper. She sounds like she has your best interests at heart.