your main concern is for your little girl.atleast I hope she is.the money the bills car ins.work are all things that matter and affect you.A 4 yr old cant understand what would be material issues.no matter how important.
What she does understand is that the dad in her life is gone.And she misses him so much she hurts physicaly inside.Its going to be this way for atleast a year.If it comes down to her never seeing him again
.After that (1yr -1 1/2) she will eventully get over it and be ok.
Hopefully this doesnt happen to her again.
I have no idea how this will play.Dont put you or her in harms way ..
You know whats best for her .No matter how sad she is.
I have no way of knowing ,but want to think and (feel)...He treated her like dads are supposed to do.Creating the bond between them.Now the pain caused by the loss.
I raised a little girl from 3mos, to 3 years.I wasnt her father.But to her I was dad.Her mother (a coke addict) left me during and causing circumstances very simalar to yours.Shut off notices credit card forgery.I had to file bankruptcy.I for a long time missed the little girl.Even though she wasnt mine technicly i was still very sad and upset .Missing her very very much.She was devastated.I got a call from the mother a couple months later.I could hear her in the background yelling at her mother .She wanted to see me.She said she didnt think that she would be affected like this.I didnt speak ,then she said oh what the use and hung up.6mos maybe more .I get a phone call at work .its the grandmother asking me to talk to her.I could her her crying in background.I told the grandma to put her on . But I think she didnt believe it was me and wouldnt come to the phone.3 1/2 yrs go by her aunt brings her into my work.A car dealer parts dept.the aunt said theres Eric .dont you want to see Eric? I heard her say in a childlike way. No I dont like Eric anymore.She never really looked right at me.I followed her to her aunts car.They were picking up.She opened the door for herself and got in...It seemed and I felt that she was a happy ,normal 7 year old little girl.......hecklereric@yahoo.com GOD BLESS