She has talked about living with me before, but this time (so far) she's keeping it to just moving to my city.

My mom is, among many other things, very wishy-washy, and has a history of having us (I have 4 sibs) go out of our way to do things for her -- expensive, time-consuming things -- only to refuse them at the last second "because I'm not stupid and I'm not dead yet and I can take care of myself." Except she can't. Which everyone but she can see. So I'm hesitant to get involved in helping her move to sister's when I know that the day before we put her on a plane, she'll change her mind.

Complicating things is, all 4 sibs are married, 3 of them are quite wealthy, and I have actually been told "we've all given our time and money over the years and you haven't been able to, so now it's your turn." And no, none of them know about the abuse. None of them got it as badly as I did, AFAIK. Emotionally, perhaps, but not the other stuff.

One last neat little twist? Today is 9 years since my dad died. He was the sane one of the two and I miss him more every %#@&#! day.