Bebop, my "unrealistic" came from the thought that everyone is doing their best all the time, not that you or I can't try to do our best all the time.

Best doesn't mean perfection, which, yes, would be a disorder imo.

It's quite obvious that everyone doesn't do their best all the time. If we really believed that, none of us would be here encouraging others, would we? We would be thinking that everyone is already doing their best, so I have nothing to offer and they really don't need my advice nor encouragement..or something along those lines. I think you can get my point.

If I were to accept that everyone does their best all the time, then that would surely change my perspective of people when they act out such as sending nasty grams etc. I would have to just leave them be to their own devices, in the truest sense of the idea. That means don't communicate with them at all, just totally ignore them. If that's their best, why bother hoping for better? imo.

It's philosophical I guess.

It can be a great thing to live by, yes indeed. It can also be very difficult when others don't treat you well, without cause. At least if you give them a cause you can get into the self blame game and make an excuse for the ill treatment, which really isn't deserved either is it? I mean, wouldn't we have to accept that that is the best they can do also?

I try to understand where someone's coming from, really. And right now I know a few readers are going, yeah right. See? Is that the best they can think?

So when we say do unto others... that includes our thoughts and speech as well as our actions. Sometimes it's good to not be so invested in someone else that you don't have to let them matter to you. But such as here, if I didn't wish others to understand where I'm coming from, why would I be here at all? Isn't my presence here to give support and encouragement through my own knowledge (whether experiential or text book?) If I present something that is taken from the "wrong" perspective than I planned it, would it be proper to just walk away. Why post at all then? Is that the best I can do?



Yes, I let alot go... much more than ever before. My mantra? <font color="purple">[b]Your opinion of me is none of my business.