We all enjoy being appreciated. However, I need to stay because of who I am and what decisions I make and what I can contribute, not because someone else wishes me to. The two might not be mutually exclusive though.

But this is about living the golden rule... and if I'm doing my best, it doesn't matter what reasons others have to not like how I'm doing it. That's up to them and their own perspectives. No one can climb into your skin and understand you fully, nor I anyone else. I find the mantra quite therapeutic and rational, as do my colleagues.