Yup. I don't want to say that I "dated" a lot when I was younger -- let's just say I "ran around" quite a bit. I was a reporter, fairly good looking, interesting -- and some guys would get really intense so quickly that it was obvious that they wanted me to live their lives for them, meet all their needs, be the answer to their prayers and dreams. I also found that with guys who were this intense, but seemed "nice," the "you're a *****" response was fairly common if I said I didn't want to date or continue a relationship. Nice on the surface, simmering underneath.

This was not about their looks. It was about the subtle energies of neediness coming off them.

Just to offer another POV.