Awwww Silver.....it's really important for you to take good care of yourself through this. Many times when we have relationships with those who abuse alcohol and/or drugs we are in a very toxic relationship with those folks. They learn very quickly how to push our buttons to get the most bang for their buck and we're left standing there wondering HUH????? What just happened??

You may very well care deeply about your friend but you also have to realize that we cannot always save our friends from themselves. We just don't have that control.....it's up to them.

If you must respond to him, then maybe you can say something along the lines that you care about him and are worried about his choice of lifestyle but that you have to take care of yourself the best way you can. For that reason, you have to keep a safe and healthy distance from him while he is abusing. That is completely fair for you to do and it is good self care. There is nothing in that to feel guilty about nor to question if you did the right thing or not. It is your responsibility to care for yourself just as it is his responsibility to care for himself.

(((((((((((((((( Silversparrow ))))))))))))))))))) I know it's not easy hon....it really hurts sometimes


sabby