whatever a kid does... they NEVER deserve to be treated like that. They DONT deserve to be abused no matter what they do or do not do...
Them saying 'not you we hate, it's the behaviour' is just another lie, another trick to make you believe it is your fault....

It does make sense... They were just messing with your mind to keep you under their control so you wouldn't tell about their wrong behaviour.
Its hard to start believing ( i often dont believe it about myself) but you'll get there

Take care,

blue