I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I feel this way almost constantly. It's been a life long struggle.
What has comforted me the most is realizing that my opinion of myself is no less important than anyone else's. Someone's negative opinion of me is not automatically more accurate than my own opinion of me. And because my opinion matters, I try to view myself in a compassionate way, the way I would like others to view me.
I tell myself I have faults and shortcomings just like anyone else. I make mistakes because I'm human just like everyone else. If people are going to define me solely through them, these are not the kind of people I want in my life.
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