Kiya, we do whatever we think will work for us...next week is my last session for 4wks and this is my 4th summer break with T and its still dam hard, but I do think there is a stronger sense of "me" now then ever before..I have a sense of what I like even when T isnt here...I have developed different tastes in books over the 4yrs of therapy and when I miss T and turn to reading a book instead, I feel as if I'm attached to T through the pain of missing her and I am attached to me by the joy I get reading the book...if that makes sense? In the beginning I would have just spun and spun and not known my arse from my head...