My boyfriend and I are talking about getting married and having a family, and he is probably going to be moving in with me soon. The problem is his mother. She's having a hard time letting go of him (he's 36 & still lives with her). When she calls him at my apt., we don't pick up the phone. We listen to the message right away, and if it is her, he calls her within 5 minutes. I have this as a phone policy because no one I know likes to talk to me for less than 1.5 hours, and I like to get all my work done (I'm a teacher) before I talk to friends/family (I'm more relaxed that way). She doesn't like my policy. Unfortunately, I think I have the right to run things the way I see fit since it is my home. This morning she called at 9 am, when we were both still sleeping. We got up at 10:30 to get two messages from her. In the second message she was yelling and called my boyfriend lazy and a liar. I told my boyfriend that was an unacceptable way to be treated, and he had the right to tell her not to treat him that way. He just said, "That's just her way." I'll tell you something-- that is NOT my way & I will not let my children be exposed to that. I'd like to ask my boyfriend if he'd agree when we had kids to not let them be around her unless one of us is there, too. Any feedback? Do you think it's a reasonable request? Do you think it's important to clarify this before we get married? This interaction left me very angry. I also feel badly he has to be exposed to that crap.