i don't really follow...

people have a preference for single mindedness over completeness. that has been established in the psychological literature. here is one example:

you can present stimuli to the left eye then the right eye then the left eye then the right eye etc etc... in such a way that the stimuli is being presented to the right hemisphere of the brain then the left hemisphere then the right hemisphere etc etc.

when you ask people what they see they report rapidly switching or alternating percepts rather than integrating the information into a more unified whole or gestalt.

people have a preference for single mindedness over completeness (in general) and people tend to swing from one pole to another pole over synthesizing the polarities (in general). developing those capacities (to complete or to synthesize) is pretty hard going...

something EVERYONE could probably stand to get better at ;-)

sometimes it can be hard when people focus on what is wrong rather than assisting with developing a more unified / integrated understanding. often i find myself struggling with unification / integration... but i can't for the life of me figure out what to do?

one has to move forward from this point rather than getting hung up on grieving the past methinks. or at least... there is probably some kinda balance in the vicinity...