Ok, maybe you can think in these terms......just because you do not respond back to him immediately, does not mean that it is a cold shoulder. The fact that you want to temper your words or that you are afraid of an argument ensuing and not strong enough to handle such a thing at the moment, it is not a bad idea for you to step back and just let it be for awhile. That can always be explained later on if he questions you.

Sometimes there are situations that seem to be a no win thing. Taking care of YOU right now is the most important thing and if you are not up to sparring with him, the don't. There is nothing wrong with that. If and when you feel up to getting your feelings and thoughts out, then ok, do it. Until then, it's quite possible that no matter what you say will fall on deaf ears and excuses will be made on his part as to why he cannot or will not help himself out of the hole he has dug. That is the way of an addicted person. It has nothing to do with you hon, it's everything to do with him and his skewed thinking pattern at this time.

Let it go for awhile....take some time to think and digest and to help yourself. You are definitely entitled to doing that


sabby