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Lyric said:
I know exactly how you feel.
It's almost like they don't connect with you, isn't it? Happens to me all the time. I can't stand extended phone calls because I often lock up and have nothing exciting to say.
Alistair is a beautiful name! Please don't be ashamed of it.
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I think you've nailed one of the key issues i have in that i cant find things to say to people, unless i know them well and am already good friends with him or her.
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Tishie said:
I dont see the hair colour itself a problem I think its the way you see yourself, I have a son who is as ginger as a carrot and calls himself ginger ninja lol. I have always told him his hair is his pride and joy and its beautiful how I wish I had the same colour he is very proud of it and gets annoyed when I cut it short.
He is ten and although people have tried to tease him because he has the right attitude they get nowhere and move on to the fat thin tall short person.
My nephew is the same and is twenty five and has no problems getting girlfriends either (too many sometimes)
Maybe you are just a very sensative soul ? And I mean that in the nicest of ways I truly do.
Perhaps if you try to make friends with people from the local church ? Thats what I used to do its a safer enviroment (my spelling is bad sorry). They are more caring and generaly nicer all round and normaly have lots of clubs for people to go to especialy for youngsters.
Or one type of club ie photography or a volunteer group ?
Hugs and I wish you all the best whatever you decide to do.
Trish.
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In reponse to the haircolor not being the problem, i agree partially. It alone is not the problem, but it combined with the other aspects of my appearance and name that all play a role into making me the person who cant blend in.
I am a sensative person, but only due to the treatment of 'friends' in the past years.
Thanks for the advice
