well, not to be rude, but honesty is always the best policy i think? of course they say there is an exception to every rule...

covertness is very damaging to the psyche... a shadow of guilt overhangs every decision.. from there, a relationship spirals quickly into the opposite of what it was intended to be...

a relationship which 'pushes' one into covert behavior is highly dysfunctional imo and very toxic to all who come into contact with it... good people are sometimes convinced to 'cover' for the original defector...