Hi Tiirikka --

Bringing up our parents sure can be challenging. I would never put myself down by calling myself a moron, even in jest. But I like the "There you go again" line a lot.

Another thing that my T taught me to do was to praise my mother extravagantly whenever she behaved in more supportive ways (she was unintentionally critical). So whenever she said anything even mildly supportive, I would tell her how much I appreciated it. Rewarding her positive behavior really turned things around.

If you can find even tiny little times when your dad shows you respect, perhaps it would help to use this technique of telling him you really like it when he treats you that way.