Vetswife,

I hate to say this, but you and your kids are the most important people in your situation. No addict is going to get / stay clean until they really want to. You can't let her drag you down with you. I'm a little unclear on the living situation - do you / she live with your parents? Is there anyway you can say no or get your parents to say no to her coming home and that she has to go to the recovery house. It might seem harsh now, but in the long run, it's probably the best thing for her. if she just gets what she wants then there are in her mind no negative consequences for using, and she'll simply continue to want to use and will eventually use. I know it cost me an awful lot before I was ready to quit drinking, and even once I decided I wanted to stop I relapsed a couple of times.

I know she's your sister and that you care about her, but sometimes the best thing you can do for an addict is let them know that they can't be part of your life until they get and stay clean.

Sorry if this is harsh - I just want to make sure that you look after yourself through all of this.

--splitimage