Calling events 'abuse' (where 'abuse' is thought to be a major cause of psychological distress / trauma) is precisely about trying to get people to condemn those events and rehabilitate and / or punish those who bring those events about... To describe yourself as the victim of 'trauma' or 'abuse' is typically to attempt to justify or validate ones suffering. Conversely, to describe oneself as a victim of 'trauma' or 'abuse' is to take it on board that one must suffer and continue to do so (otherwise, if one moves on, then that seems to condone the acts that were committed - one simply has to suffer since that is what legitimates the thought that the reason why trauma and abuse are so bad is precisely the point that they are thought to cause suffering and harm that persists long term).

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I was agree with you until I came to this. I don't believe most people truly want to identity with being a victim of abuse. I wish I could change that aspect of my past life.

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Being burned with lightbulbs for wetting the bed, being beat until you can't sit down with welts so big, threatening to kill me if I told of the various stuff she did, listening to her torment my brother physically and mentally, being so afraid of when she would switch, from being okay to mad, etc. If this isn't trauma or abuse I don't know what is. Do I wish it didn't happen, yes. I am a survivor, but I was also a victim of abuse and it caused trauma.