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. Conversely, to describe oneself as a victim of 'trauma' or 'abuse' is to take it on board that one must suffer and continue to do so (otherwise, if one moves on, then that seems to condone the acts that were committed - one simply has to suffer since that is what legitimates the thought that the reason why trauma and abuse are so bad is precisely the point that they are thought to cause suffering and harm that persists long term).

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I SO disagree with this.

I was abused. I do not believe that I "must suffer and continue to do so". In fact, the reason I am in therapy is to learn to put an end to the coping mechanisms that I've employed for far too many years to deal with the abuse that was done to me when I was a child/teen. I DO NOT think that I have to continue to suffer "since that is what legitimates the thought" that the abuse was bad. I know it was bad. I look forward with great hope to the end of any suffering the abuse has caused me.

Please speak only for yourself without making sweeping generalizations. I did not CHOOSE to be abused. I AM choosing to heal.