i'm a little nervous posting here... i went through domestic abuse, among others, and under another name a long time ago i got a response that scared the bejeebers out of me. i haven't posted here since.
anyways... i found this most excellent article on abuse, specifically meant for victims of NPD abusers, but useful for everyone... it describes various types of abuse in excellent terms, and the situational responses of the abused. i cried reading this. Good luck and good vibes.
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse.html
(Trigger icon added by Christina86. Information in link may be triggering)
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“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” -His Holiness, the Dalai Lama
I will not kneel, not for anyone. I am courageous, strong and full of light. Find someone else to judge, your best won't work here.