I've been left with no other option but to bring back up this thread. Remember rule number one? Allow me to refresh your memory, if not, LOL

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1) Vacations are not permissible unless you take the patient with you.

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My T is going on a cruise next week WITHOUT ME! This is a clear violation of Rule Number 1. Of course, I will never abandon him over this issue - I know he is not perfect. I'm really concerned that he is going to miss one session - what if he starts feeling hopeless and doesn't have me to run to as a secure base? Hmmm. I might have to set some limits when he gets back, like not allowing him to email me (LOL) or maybe I'll create a boundary for him - it will encircle his office. He is not allowed to cross his own boundary every Tuesday at 3:00 and thus will be there. He is missing out on precious therapy time - I could be teaching him so much. What am I going to do with him, LOL?

I guess I'll post another rule. I'm being very gracious and fair on this one.

RULE 74:
Ts are allowed to take a vacation within the City limits but must adhere to the boundary stated above (different for each client).

I honestly think I'm being very lenient here

I'm not sure if I've posted this or not, but a few months ago, T left his office while I was in there to get water. I had some animal stickers that I had brought home from school, of course there were two hippos. I stuck the two hippos stickers on his tissue box. He noticed them when he got back from vacation and had it prominently displayed on his desk. Well, I asked him where this tissue box was today (the hippo is symbolic of my neediness fragment). He said he discarded it, LOL, because someone had kept throwing up in his office due to anxiety and apparently used the holy tissue box which at that point should have been enshrined. (T may have told a "whopper" on this one - but if so, I have to give him full credit for creativity!) I'm desperately trying to get him to accept this part and he discards it? (I'm not actually angry, I actually am finding this humourous - he has actually done a few things showing me that he does accept it.) How could he let ANYONE use this, though? Doesn't he cherish the transitional objects that I give to him like I do the ones he gives to me? Surely, he must (heh).

RULE 75
Ts will genuinely cherish anything that his client gives to him. He will guard it from vomit and any other destructive substance.

Over and out ---