(((((Mouse))))))),

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I asked her what the point in coming was, just to sit in silence

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

I hate the silent treatment! I tell my T that it isn't natural because I feel like he sits and stares at me. IRL, silences happen but the whole focus isn't on you. It is difficult to deal with, -- my T actually turned his chair around and promised not to look at me, LOL. The silence was then okay for me.

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
T then said, "I'm saying the silences are ok, but your experiencing them like you did with your mother when you were left alone for hours as a baby and wanting your mother to reach out to you?"

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Wow! What an insight! I never thought that the silences could recreate a situation like that. That is very interesting!

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
she gets me, she won't leave me sitting in agony now, she knows how painful it is for me!!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Congratulations! I don't know if you feel this way, but when this happens with me and my T, I feel like a part of me has been set free. It's like your T recognized how you were feeling, helped you put it into words to communicate your inner experience, and accepted this part of you.

It doesn't get much better than that! What a great session!