I surely never ever looked at Jude's family as my own. From what I've seen of families I can do without one, thank ya very much.

We inside folks have usually referred to her family as' the mother',' the sister', etc. Only the littlest ones saw any of them in their given roles. To some of us they were the enemy for Pete's sake.

We hightailed it outta there at age 16 and never saw most of them ever again.

So Sugar, I guess y'all can chose what to call them or how to identify with them any way ya want.

Perhaps her kinfolk aren't as toxic as Jude's and that's a good thing.

I sure do know what ya mean about being recognized. I hate feeling invisible! But I'm hard to hide when I surface, being a funny, cynical, in-your-face kinda person. Not at all like the ever appropriate host. This is the first time I've been able to express an opinion publically in years.

None of this probably helped you much but I wanted you to know you were heard and understood. Hang in there-what else can we do?

Angelina