I feel so conflicted about the public vs. private chat room.

I hate it that some people feel left out when others go into private chat.

But I don't want to feel guilty if I go into protected chat for whatever the personal reasons might be.

I feel badly that some people come into public chat and go away feeling left out.

But I hate feeling guilty that I was conversationally competent enough to please all people all of the time.

Or that someone comes to social wanting comfort.

I don't know how to please all of the people all of the time -- and I want to.