I can say for sure that being split does get me into trouble. Being inconsistent and "forgetting" things makes people angry with me or not trust me. Sometimes I would volunteer to do something in a strong part of me and then not be able to follow through when it got down to it because I was in a part without much strength. I got into trouble with people because sometimes we would have a disagreement and that would trigger me to amnesia and I would not remember anything that was said and they thought I was being dishonest or avoiding dealing with stuff on purpose - when I'd lost memory due to fear. I used to be totally afraid of all arguments.

The biggest thing I've done that has had bad effects is that I've told people about being dissociative who were not ready or not able to deal with this fact of my life. I've lost so many friends/ acquaintances that way. Sometimes my parts get this raging desire to be open and to be accepted that they leap before they look and its a disaster.

Recently I've had a part that doesn't want to go outside so every time I made an appointment to see a friend that part ducks out of it at the last minute - did that 3 times in 8 days over a luncheon date. Talk about unpopular!!! That is my most patient friend and it stretched the patience almost to the breaking point.

Don't know if you go through things like this, but I just wanted to try and answer your question. I get tired of "getting in trouble" with others because of being split.

Leah, a frustrated Pixie