Advice is easy to hear and hard to implement. I think it is wonderful that your hubs feels that way. Sometimes my hubs is part of who keeps the guilt in my life. I feel like such a failure around him sometimes. He seems to think I should be able to "just get over it". I can't do that.

I do know that things are better with me than they used to be. I have had to begin to learn how to talk differently to myself. I have to practice speaking the truth to myself and practice recognizing and rejecting the lies I was taught by abusers when I was small.

Time is the word. It all takes time to change and I want change NOW. Or I find that its time to change and I then resist the changes.

What frustrates me the most is the changeable way my mind works. Something will seem stable and then shift without warning and it drives me nuts some days. GRRRR