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Simcha said:
A therapist and neglect patients in personal crisis or when they need something outside of strict session hours is a gigantic bright red flag that says "WARNING! STAY AWAY!"

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I agree with Simcha here. If you detect insincerity or lack of compassion/empathy.... raise the red flag and get out. HOWEVER (since I was here last week), I would strongly suggest that if you feel like your therapist is neglecting, ignoring you, refusing to help you, or is not responding to you because they are trying to use some behaviorist technique to extinguish your neediness....to challenge those thoughts in you head! These are more likely your projections or some type of transference associated with one else's treatment of you. If you have a decent T (although they are human, make mistakes and don't really have ESP) it is unlikely that they would consider these actions to be therapeutic. Parents, teachers, coaches, and friends sometimes use malicious and punitive methods to manipulate people and get what they want, but I think in general... T's have more positive productive techniques in their grab bag. Knowing this and systematically challenging my assumptions really help me this week.Then of course having a good T who eventually understood my encrypted messages and was able to give me what I needed was also vital too.