to answer your original post.... yes... took me a long time to get out of that fantasy I was in....with lots of help, support and love form my hubby I was able to fight my way thru it.... It took its toll for sure on our marraige and how he was able to stay strong and hang on is remarkable to me and amazing! I am blessed that he was able too...I do find tho at times that I slide back for brief moments (mental state nof wantong to seeking but not actually doung so) but I am able to turn around before its too late...