I've been in a relationship with a survivor of childhood abuse for about three years. We have had ups and downs, luckily we do care about each other very much and we are both in it for the long haul. There are a lot of situations I've learned to handle in a way that we are both happy with. However, there are other issues that I don't know what to do about. He sometimes can't help but allow people to take advantage of him and it ends up driving him crazy. It drives me a little nuts too, but he doesn't usually take my advice before it gets to that point or even after. I don't throw on guilt or "I told you so" because there isn't any point. I don't think that if I get upset it will do any good. When it hits the fan all I can do is be supportive, loving, and positive. We can't afford therapy right now, I'm looking for advice as to how to help him stand up for himself before it's too late. What else can I do?

Thanks to All

-Just thinking about it for a bit. I can change the way I give advice and try not to get emotional...