I'm seriously confused! I know relationships happen when you least expect them, but, well, I really didn't see this one coming and it has totally floored me. Turns out a guy loosely connected to my work has liked me for a few months, and just recently he decided to make his move. Truth be told I hadn't even considered him as relationship material, so I didn't even KNOW what I thought of him. So far I have just gone along with it, so we've had two dates and now he's away for a few weeks so I have time to think about it. I'm finding it hard to decide if I want to see him seriously though.

On the one hand its nice to have a guy FINALLY interested in me (I am NEVER asked out by guys, never even noticed by them) and I have been enjoying the attention, and the second date we had was good fun, but then again he is a lot older, not really handsome, and has kids (from a previous relationship). I can forgive the kids and forget about the age gap, though neither is ideal but I'm really struggling with the looks aspect.

Last time (only other serious relationship) I dated a guy who I didn't think was handsome, but whom I was attracted to anyway, though I felt like I wasn't attracted ENOUGH to him, and it caused some problems. We split up for lots of reasons, not just that though. I guess I always thought I had "done my time" with unattractive guys, and I sort of expected the next one would be better looking, but in fact he's WORSE looking, and that worries me. I guess I feel like there's something wrong with me becuase I can't seem to attract anyone good looking.

I feel guilty being so superficial, as I don't normally place much store on looks, I think a good character is important,and I'm sure even the hottest guys grow boring fat or old after a while. I guess i'm just concerned what it says about me, and worried that it will cause problems if I don't find him physically handsome. Then again a part of me says that I should not be so fussy, as it has been ages since anyone showed any interest in me, so I should just be glad to have someone at all. I've been single for much of my adult life and my family and friends always ask when I am going to get someone and joke that there's something wrong with me, or appear suspicious when I say I'm still single. It seems mad to turn someone down in the face of that!!

Soooo.... My question is this: what should I do? is there something wrong with me that I keep attracting un-hot guys (and only them)

sorry sorry this is a very long post.... just to reflect how confused i am!
thanks for reading/ giving me your advice!