Hello Everyone - I'm new to this but I needed outside views on my situation. I made the decision to divorce my H.

Together for 7 yrs married 4... My H is a contract pipefitter/boilermaker repairing and building refineries (shutdowns). This type of work requires extensive travel months sometimes years at a time. My H went back to work in 01/08 after being unemployed since 04/07 which caused strain on our financial situation and marriage.

In 04/08, he totaled my 2005 Jeep, stop sending me support to pay the bills, consistently overdrew my bank accounts, and refused to give me an address where he was living.

I always had a feeling he was living with a female but he kept telling me he was renting a room from a friend I didn't know. He reasoning was that the job had cut his hours and he was unable to afford a hotel room in addition to sending money home. (Job paid $490 per wk for rent) Even after the change in living arrangements, support was never sent home. I finally hit a wall, frustrated with my overdrawn checking and saving accounts, overlimit credit cards, and borrowing money from everyone under the sun, I told him I wanted a divorce. I couldn't live this way anymore and I was tired of the multitude of lies. He swears I'm having an affair.

It turns out the friend he is living with was an ex-girlfriend and their 2 children. I feel disrespected on whole different level.

Our relationship has had its difficulties I'm now done and I feel I deserve better. I'm 35 yrs old he's 48, and I married him in prayer that once he had a job things will be better. I have been the stable provider in our relationship since we've been together and I 'm tired of paying for his past problem solving techniques. He has 10 children, I only knew about 3 when we married, no driver's license, no permante job with and no credit. Everything we own I bought. I couldn't afford to buy a house if I wanted because of his issues. It will take me years to recover financially from this marriage.

Not to mention he is very jealous, insecure and possessive, feels sex solves all of our problems. If I don't put out, he assumes I'm giving it to someone else. I'm too tired mentally to even think about having sex with myself yet alone anyone else.

Sorry for such a long post but I need HELP!