*safe hugs* only if okay
emwell, i'm sorry you were in enough pain to feel the need for si.
your post sounds so crestfallen and discouraged. it makes me wish i could reach into your heart and pour hope into it.
si can be so isolating, and i have had times where i needed to talk about it more specifically than would be allowed in the forum. if you need a safe place to talk without giving someone ideas, you can pm me. i really only do my chosen method- even when i try other things, they usually turn into just cutting. also, i have committed myself to stopping and am doing very well with that. so i am okay to hear it, if you need a place to say it.
here for you....
Angela