Hi TaffyT,

First of all, welcome to PC. I truly hope you find the support you need through all this.

It certainly sounds like you have come up with a fair amount of reasons to divorce your H. They sound like valid reasons. While in any relationship, it takes 2 to tango, it almost sounds like you are dancing alone here.

I could make all kinds of assumptions but I will try hard not to. I believe that if in your heart of hearts, you are at the very end of your rope, you know what needs to be done for you. There is no reason for you to feel guilty for your H's behaviors....thats' all on him. I hear in your post that your gut is telling you it's time to pick up the pieces and move on, but it's hard for the heart to follow. When we marry we always have this vision of how our marriage should be...and when it doesn't stack up, then it's hard to let go of.

Make a pro's and con's list for yourself. What do you get out of this marriage that is positive and supportive? Do you feel your needs are being met? It sounds like his are doesn't it?

You have a right to your happiness....go with your gut feeling. Wishing you well in your decisions.


sabby