Hi Shadow
I use everything and anything. I keep notepads around. I use calendars, my computer. I also have people that help with things that absolutely have to get done. My daughter is wonderful about reminding me about things and since she knows what goes on for me, it's very helpful without being upsetting. Often I will ask daughter to remind me as she remembers but no pressure. She remembers things very well and so I get reminders a lot from her. She's very kind not to make me feel like she's told me 100 million times too, which helps.

My boss, who doesn't know exactly what's going on, but knows I "forget" a lot helps me by giving me lists to check off. I also make myself lists to check off. I don't always remember doing the things and I often don't even remember checking them off, but it still seems to work for me.

I also find notes on pieces of paper lying about and I used to ignore them because I didn't know what they were about. Now I pay attention to them because most likely it was some part of me who wrote them. They often tell information that I need to do something or be somewhere.

Hope that helps. I think if we use all the resources we have, it's the best we can do. I still miss appointments and sometimes I don't get things done that were supposed to get done but it is much better than it was in the past and for that I'm thankful. People without dissociative disorders forget things too so while we may have to work harder at getting those things done, things can progress.

Good luck to you as you try to figure things out.