Hi there --

You wrote that your marriage cannot be saved, because you broke trust. Yet, many marriages have survived this. The most recent is John Edwards, stepping out on his wife when she had cancer, then portraying himself as the ultimate family man during his campaign. Perhaps it is easier for women to be the long-suffering partner than it is for a man.

Is there any chance your husband will attend pastoral or marriage counseling with you? Do you even want the marriage to survive?