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One benefit of staying with your wife while you heal yourself is that you can correct all of your issues if they are being triggered all the time by your wife. If you get in an environment where your issues go underground then how can you correct them? Also, if you leave her without correcting yourself you could possibly just choose the same type of person again if you don't understand why you chose her in the first place.

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Sannah, I see the home as a sanctuary, where one should be able to rest and rejuvenate, a place where one can let down their guard. One should not have to be on emotional alert, always ready to engage in an emotional defensive action, in order to preserve their self esteem

I don't see, how anyone can heal, themselves, while still suffering the same, chronic, insidious, emotional abuse, that destroyed their self-esteem in the first place. My current wife, took over, where my first wife left off. My first wife took over, where my mother left off. No doubt, I need to correct, what brought me to my current state twice. I guess, I got lucky once, my first wife left me!

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