(((((((((( Taffy ))))))))))))

It can take a long time for the heart to follow the head. It was that way in my first marriage as well, so I do understand that.

The way I have made it through, without being bitter is this, I try really hard not to dwell on the years that were "lost". In reality, I don't really believe they are lost, they are years that we learned what hasn't worked and years that we needed to get to the point of fixing what's broken, our lives. If I were to sit and figure out the money I lost because of the ex, it would make me so danged angry. In the grand scheme of things.....it's only money. The fact that I got out of the relationship alive and intact enough to be able to learn and grow and become independent...then that is what was most important to me. The money was secondary. I can't recoup it...so why be angry about it? It would do me no good at all to allow the anger to rule me. It doesn't mean that I didn't file it away for future reference if needed

What you are going through is a process....one of grieving. Time and taking care of yourself through this will help you get past it.

As far as taking his calls and storing his items for a fee goes....I would think long and hard about it. You said that he has withheld money from you...do you really think he will pay for the storage? I would also think about why you would want to continue to take his calls and keep his stuff for him? Is it purely out of being a nice person or is there another reason....such as keeping in contact with him?

What does your gut tell you to do? I would follow your instincts as they are almost always right

Take care Taffy....


sabby