This is a hard question Rainbow...actually harder than"Why not me?..but just as difficult to answer.

Questions of fate or destiny or even serendipity are generally poised from a point of disadvantage because they are self centered and that means ego is involved. From ego,,comes judgement and judgement generally surrounds fear. Fear always defines us as a victim. I seldom use the word always.

Things happen because they do and our points of control are before events,,not after. We find ourselves asking these questions of the result and often avoid the process that put us there...

But once there,,I often put myself in a place where I can effect the outcome for another soul...by offereing help to them. I will volunteer in a hospitol or rehab or advise in a detention facility.

I get two things from this excercise.

One...gratitude,,for I witness circumstances far worse than mine.

And two,,when I'm thinking of another person,,I am not thinking of me...

I hope your view of your destiny improves...It is hard to face new events when we feel we were treated unjustly in our past ones..

With care,

Lenny