Thanks earthmama, MissCharlotte, skeksi, Fuzzybear, and Kiya.

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After a couple of kick-back-and-relax sessions, in which I took a breather from serious work,

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Hey, I want one of those! LOL

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Does he know how worried you have been about termination?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I haven't been too worried, at least not that I knew about. But I think it is always in the back of my mind, tucked in a corner somewhere, probably from the first moment I attached so strongly. Somewhere inside I know "this will end some day." But I haven't been thinking about it much. When T made his "favorite people" comment I felt better about termination, even though I hadn't known before that moment that I was so dreading/fearing it. I hadn't allowed myself to know that yet. I am just that way--I hide my emotions from myself unconsciously. I am trying to learn not to do this. I don't think T and I will explore the termination question yet as we have more pressing things to do.

When T made his comment, I just suddenly felt so secure. It showed me how we can strongly affect someone just by sharing our thoughts and feelings with them. I never had that security in my marriage as my H never shared any positive thoughts or feelings he had about me (if indeed he had any). It is wonderful to feel so secure. If I ever have another serious relationship, I would like it to include that feeling of emotional security.

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It sounds like you have made a real impact on your T, and he on you. That is the therapeutic relationship at its best.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I like that skeksi, thanks.