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I think that the fact that you felt the meaning behind that simple word is because your T used YOUR word

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Pink I hadn't thought of it that way but ABSOLUTELY. That along with the fact that one of my issues with the whole therapy thing is that I get hung up on if the interaction is really REAL. Her responding that way just made it more of a genuine statement.

As for Ts skillfully using our own words to effectively communicate that we are in fact being heard-- Your comment made me think of the other thread where we were talking about Ts mirroring or reflecting out statements and how it is done makes all the difference.

Here is another simple comment made in the same email exchange. During my session I mentioned a two incidence but neglected to provide details or the context. My T didn't see the connection and asked me to connect the dots for her. Which then I did, but again left details out (only this time the omissions were more conscious).

So in my email after the session I reflected on my tendency leave out the details by writing..."The lack of context seemed apparent when you stopped and asked me to connect the dots for you. At that instant, a lot of dots appeared. Part of me just wanted to curl up at that moment, start at the beginning, and explore each one. But the rational me said NO! Give her only the relevant facts she wants, gain her insights, and do the rest on your own."

In her reply, my T held her comment on this until the last line of the email. Where simply wrote... "connect the dots."

Again to me... a few simple but well timed words.