Hi there,
I agree with your T, these are accomplishments, and I'd like to say that is good, even if you don't think they are accomplishments.
I also want to say that I think that you wanting and do offer advice, support and compassion is a beautiful thing, so see that as being a terrific person, please.
I do understand what you mean (I think) that why is it we can offer advice but yet, often, we can't seem to apply it to ourselves, that is something I cannot answer, I ponder this often in my own life too, gets me unreeled sometimes.
I wish I had something that can help with your post, but I don't, I guess.
I do want to say that of what you mentioned about how you feel towards others and helping them, makes me feel you must be a good person

Sincerely,

DE

PS
If you find some solutions or even little threads of some solution, please, by all means share it with us, it would be so useful, helpful and most of all appreciated