((Chaotic13))

That is a great post! I'm so happy you were able to repair the rupture, and that T heard what you were trying to say to her.

It is all about timing, and how the words are delivered.

I remember one session -- I was feeling silly for telling T about the 'good' things I'd done that week. I felt like I was a little kid trying to explain to an adult that I really was making progress. T told me it was important to also share the victories, and that he is there as a witness to my life.

The idea of him just being a witness, the way he said it so gently, struck me as a profound statement. I said 'that is so ...loving'. Just witnessing -- not judging, just being there with me. I cried, beautiful tears this time.

I've read in different books about how a therapist is supposed to be a witness, but how and when T said it was what really has stuck with me.