The younger, weaker, less experienced person is to be protected. That is a basic rule of society.

Anyone who imposes any sexual action on a younger or weaker or inexperienced person is an abuser.

Children are to be protected from the adult sexual world, it is wrong to sexualize a child and open doors too soon - especially since they can't be closed. One can't go back to before sexual contact.

It is never the child's fault, never, never, never. The guilt and shame are ALL on the older/abuser!!!

Defining the words and trying to put age experience limits won"t bring you peace. Any older person who involves you into sexual activities as a child is a sexual offender/predator. IT'S ABUSE.

Healing can and does happen. It is worth the effort and discomfort to find a way to deal with the past. I wish you healing and help.

Leslie